Our Loss & Bereavement Specialist, Nneka Njideka, LCSW-R, contributed to this article.
New York Times Article on Sudden Death
The article discusses the difficulties faced by those who experience sudden loss, particularly those who are low on resources or people of color. The bereaved may be faced with living losses such as unemployment or food insecurity, in addition to losing their loved one. Friends and family may not be willing to help them through their grief, which can be one of the most painful experiences. The article suggests ways to help, such as taking on tasks to ease the bereaved's burden, offering specific help, and providing a welcome distraction. Read the NY Time's article HERE
Here are 10 things you can do to help someone who has lost a loved one:
- Offer to help with tasks like grocery shopping, cooking, or cleaning their home.
- Listen to them when they want to talk, and offer support without judgment.
- Send a sympathy card or flowers to let them know you are thinking of them.
- Attend the funeral or memorial service if you are able to do so.
- Check in with them regularly, even if it's just a quick text or phone call to say hello.
- Offer to go for a walk or engage in an activity together, such as seeing a movie or going to a museum.
- Respect their grieving process and don't rush them to "move on" before they are ready.
- Share happy memories or stories about the person who passed away.
- Offer to connect them with grief support groups or resources in their community.
- Avoid saying things like "everything happens for a reason" or "they are in a better place now" which may minimize their grief or be hurtful.
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